My mum's dementia has entered a new phase - she used to trust me and rely on my input but in the last few months she gets into rages accusing me of everything and anything. I live a 5 hour drive away so have to rely on phone contact a lot. My partner is not keen on me visiting on my own because the aggression and upset is debilitating all round and he worries about me driving. He has lost the last two years of his annual leave dealing with crises in my family and this worries me too. Most times I phone my mum I am immediately in the firing line for having taken keys, money, tricked her etc etc. It is next to impossible to brush off these outbursts and be unstressed for the sake of my partner. My poor nephew lives local to my mum but his recent visits have been grim - his gran paces about the house red in the face telling him what a beastly person I am. The family situation is not good - we lost my dad quite suddenly 2 years ago. Then last summer my sister died from untreated breast cancer having told no-one she was even ill until 5 weeks before she died. My nephew and myself nursed her at home as she didn't want to go to hospital. I am the only relative my nephew has left to talk to and he says that his gran has gone now too. My poor mum has lost her husband of 50 years and her daughter. Grief and dementia are a hidious combination. I feel very alone trying to know what to do and my sister can't help me. Mum no longer gains comfort or reassurance from me and I feel helpless. Does anyone think that this might just be a phase in the illness being angry at me all the time - I really want to help my mum but she is shutting me out. The last 2 years have taken a toll on my health and i am beginning to worry about the effects of longterm stress.