Hi
I suspected that my mother may have a mental illness nearly 2 years ago now, it was hard to be sure as there has been so much going on in that time with both an uncle and my grandmother passing away in that time period. So some things were put down to grief/stress until I found out last November that she was days away from being repossessed (on her 60th birthday) due to a mix up with the jobcentre and her being confused about payments and going into arrears. She never appeared at the court hearing so repossession was granted, luckily the solicitors for the lenders were really good and I paid off the arrears and sorted direct debit for future. I'm still waiting on the LPA registration to come back.
Now since then it's taken me 3 trips to the GP to get her refereed to a consultant who took 2 months to sort a scan, the scan showed obvious frontal brain cell loss that was on 8th April and told that she would need further cognitive tests to get a better diagnosis. Only after complaining last week and using the 'formal complaint' line have they arranged this next test for 15th July. How on earth can it take this long?
My biggest worry is that I live a 100 miles away from my mother and I'm self employed with a family and mortgage. She seems utterly fine around me and family, but neighbours have been contacting me for months saying she's verbally abusive (sometimes to nobody), aggressive and sometimes moves bins outside their homes and has been seen 3am in the garden. Neighbours have been very understanding, but not sure how long it will last. She won't allow any nurses or doctors into the house, so I really don't know what to do as we don't have enough room to bring her to our house and I can't live with her. I spoke to social services but seen as she can take full care of herself and she won't consent to visits they can't do anything.
Any suggestions would be appreciated as I feel totally lost as what to do, even the diagnosis won't change anything I doubt.
I suspected that my mother may have a mental illness nearly 2 years ago now, it was hard to be sure as there has been so much going on in that time with both an uncle and my grandmother passing away in that time period. So some things were put down to grief/stress until I found out last November that she was days away from being repossessed (on her 60th birthday) due to a mix up with the jobcentre and her being confused about payments and going into arrears. She never appeared at the court hearing so repossession was granted, luckily the solicitors for the lenders were really good and I paid off the arrears and sorted direct debit for future. I'm still waiting on the LPA registration to come back.
Now since then it's taken me 3 trips to the GP to get her refereed to a consultant who took 2 months to sort a scan, the scan showed obvious frontal brain cell loss that was on 8th April and told that she would need further cognitive tests to get a better diagnosis. Only after complaining last week and using the 'formal complaint' line have they arranged this next test for 15th July. How on earth can it take this long?
My biggest worry is that I live a 100 miles away from my mother and I'm self employed with a family and mortgage. She seems utterly fine around me and family, but neighbours have been contacting me for months saying she's verbally abusive (sometimes to nobody), aggressive and sometimes moves bins outside their homes and has been seen 3am in the garden. Neighbours have been very understanding, but not sure how long it will last. She won't allow any nurses or doctors into the house, so I really don't know what to do as we don't have enough room to bring her to our house and I can't live with her. I spoke to social services but seen as she can take full care of herself and she won't consent to visits they can't do anything.
Any suggestions would be appreciated as I feel totally lost as what to do, even the diagnosis won't change anything I doubt.
