Why is it that whoever you deal with seem to totally ignore the person who knows the cared for best and just carry on as though the carer is invisible?
I told the A & E Doctor to look at Mum's back, although they were concentrating on her legs. Mum kept complaining, well screaming at everyone, that her back was really painful. I lifted up her gown and showed the doctor her back which was cut and said that tomorrow it would be full of bruises. Nothing there, the Doc said, its OK. Ignore me, that's right. This morning she's still complaining, lifted up her dress, and the whole of her back, nearly full length of her spine is black and blue.
PACE come in. I will get you a glass of water. Went to Kitchen got Mum a glass of water. She told Mum to take 4 sips. She did, Mum as nice as pie to her. Oh, she probably thought what a lovely little lady. Told me off for not constantly supplying her with drinks. Told her Mum has had 3 cups of tea in the past 45 minutes. Oh she must have water, not tea. She won't drink water. Please ensure the carer gives her water. The carer does leave her water, I leave her water, BUT SHE WON'T DRINK IT! Ignores me, keeps writing. As she left I said to her, oh you are so lucky. When I speak to Mum and try and get her to do something, she tells me to f off and throws a tantrum. Oh they are always like this with the one they love. Problem with that is my Mum doesn't love me, never has, never kissed me or shown me any affection in the whole of my life. These people really annoy me so much. Anyway, PACE not coming anymore, thank God. She asked Mum if she would like to do a survey and Mum said yes. Just how does someone with AD do a survey when she can't even remember that she had a fall and was in hospital all last night! It beggars belief. I'm sick of all these tick box exercises they do. Be good if they actually SUPPORTED THE CARERS rather than hack them off and making them feel like they are useless at caring.
I told the A & E Doctor to look at Mum's back, although they were concentrating on her legs. Mum kept complaining, well screaming at everyone, that her back was really painful. I lifted up her gown and showed the doctor her back which was cut and said that tomorrow it would be full of bruises. Nothing there, the Doc said, its OK. Ignore me, that's right. This morning she's still complaining, lifted up her dress, and the whole of her back, nearly full length of her spine is black and blue.
PACE come in. I will get you a glass of water. Went to Kitchen got Mum a glass of water. She told Mum to take 4 sips. She did, Mum as nice as pie to her. Oh, she probably thought what a lovely little lady. Told me off for not constantly supplying her with drinks. Told her Mum has had 3 cups of tea in the past 45 minutes. Oh she must have water, not tea. She won't drink water. Please ensure the carer gives her water. The carer does leave her water, I leave her water, BUT SHE WON'T DRINK IT! Ignores me, keeps writing. As she left I said to her, oh you are so lucky. When I speak to Mum and try and get her to do something, she tells me to f off and throws a tantrum. Oh they are always like this with the one they love. Problem with that is my Mum doesn't love me, never has, never kissed me or shown me any affection in the whole of my life. These people really annoy me so much. Anyway, PACE not coming anymore, thank God. She asked Mum if she would like to do a survey and Mum said yes. Just how does someone with AD do a survey when she can't even remember that she had a fall and was in hospital all last night! It beggars belief. I'm sick of all these tick box exercises they do. Be good if they actually SUPPORTED THE CARERS rather than hack them off and making them feel like they are useless at caring.