I have only posted a few times, a quick recap it's almost 4yrs since my 91yr old mums diagnosis of vascular/mixed dementia with frontal lobe. An assisted living placement did not work out, so had to return home. she has been deemed to not have capacity to make decisions. I do everything, preparation of meals, shopping, cleaning, bathing laundry, the lot. Mum tho believes she does all this herself,she flatly refuses any extra help,again believes she does not need any. The tears and tantrums are a daily occurrence now sometimes going on all day. Today's panic that got her so upset and angry because I had put the washing machine on a longer hotter wash as she had not let me change her bed for over a month! You would have thought it was the end of the world my brother helps out when he can, but he is in his 70s and now on holiday. I feel so ragged lately as I do believe a crisis is about to happen, and I don't know what to do when it does happen I was on the verge of calling an ambulance today as I could do nothing with her at all, but the mention of that brought her round, where do I stand if she refused to go in an ambulance, can I insist as I don't think I can cope much longer. My poor husband has put up with a lot but it is getting to the stage that my marriage could be in crisis too. I have pretty much hit a brick wall and don't know where to go next. The GP just advises she would be best in a residential home and I do now agree with him but it's not going to be easy to manage as,it will be under protest. Apologies for the rant, I need some feedback please.