Hello, I posted a few weeks back about the 'impossible situation' with my mum and dad who both have dementia. To summarise, they live at home with carer's visiting 4 times a day but they argue incessantly and I am concerned there is verbal and physical abuse. Mum is petrified of going in a care home (her dementia is more advanced than dad's so it would have to be mum who goes) and dad simply cannot cope living with her 24 hours a day. He has just come out off hospital for 2 weeks with exhaustion etc. Social Services have just said mum needs to go into respite but we can't force her and she point blank refuses to go. I've asked GP to request a capacity assessment which she has put in motion, and I've asked social services to do a care home assessment for mum. But these things take 2-3 weeks. I have LPA for mum for Health and Welfare and financial property. The thing is, the memory clinic told me today that it is my decision to force mum into a care home as I have LPA, as long as its the least restrictive option. THey said the care home would have to have a best interests meeting and also apply for DOLS. Surely this can't be right, that it is my decision to assess mum's capacity? I thought this had to be done by a qualified professional. All this waiting around is making mum worse and she now says she feels suicidal because she is living with the fear of being put in care but then nothing happens, and the arguments with dad continue. So now i'm told to just get a home sorted and get her in for a couple of weeks so we can all have a think about what to do long term. Does this sound right?