Can't see anything offensive in your post. It says what we must all think when the time comes. Take care of yourself, You too Helen.
Sent from my GT-N5110
Sent from my GT-N5110
I was still able to care for him in a way. A different way, but still I cared. Now even that has been taken away. /QUOTE]
Dear Saffie,
Yes, it has been taken away . The whole thing is terribly sad and lonely. What helped me was my mum told me just before her death "there's nothing you can do for the dead but if you want to do something for them, then look after the living". You are the living Saffie.
When I became ill, one of the first things I decided was that I was going to look after myself as I looked after Alan.
It is all so soon and you are more than likely to feel lost and alone with no sense of purpose. You will find your way Saffie. Allow yourself time. If you feel really, really stuck and alone then maybe you might think about reaching out to people who are able to help. They are out there.
Sending much love and a warm (hug)
So what does a practical, down to Earther do? Put the cream on the back of a long handled bath brush? tried it, not really effective, put the cream on a plastic carrier bag, then try to dangle it down your back, grab hold with the other hand and pull it back and forth, hoping you get the cream on the bit that hurts? Did you know that some creams remove the coloured advertisment from carrier bags? so use a plain bag or you might end up with 'ASDA', or 'SAINSBURY'S' emblazoned accross your back.
My husband is still at home, but has trouble following my instructions on where I need ointment put, so I solved this problem by putting the ointment on a sponge which I attached to a door edge with a bit of double sided tape. I then rubbed my back on it (a bit like ridding yourself of an itch), A bit more wasteful with the ointment - but effective