What exactly do you want someone to do?
You have said that help is not required to get him washed and dressed, but in another post you have said that your mum cant get him out for things like day care, dementia cafes and "singing for the brain" because it takes too long to get him ready. If you want a couple of hours for her to go out then there are indeed organizations who can provide Befriending Services, or you could employ someone to just sit with him. Things like getting a cleaner in, getting someone to do the shopping, giving her a hand with getting him ready will give your mum more time, because just being with someone who has dementia is tiring. There are things out there, but you have to search.
I am guessing, though, that none of this is what you want, so Im wondering what you are looking for. Is it that you object to having to pay for things? Organisations that deal with dementia are not "sexy"; dementia is the new taboo disease and there is very little money in it, so everyone is strapped for cash. Its not the way any of us would like it, but thats the way it is. There are no easy answers. Dementia itself makes helping difficult as the person with dementia will often refuse help and insist that their carer does everything for them with no outside help. So you have to learn new ways of doing things and new ways of coping.
There are many threads on here about how to deal with practical things like washing/bathing, aggression, incontinence and if your mum needs specific help with something TP is a treasure trove of ideas and information
You have said that help is not required to get him washed and dressed, but in another post you have said that your mum cant get him out for things like day care, dementia cafes and "singing for the brain" because it takes too long to get him ready. If you want a couple of hours for her to go out then there are indeed organizations who can provide Befriending Services, or you could employ someone to just sit with him. Things like getting a cleaner in, getting someone to do the shopping, giving her a hand with getting him ready will give your mum more time, because just being with someone who has dementia is tiring. There are things out there, but you have to search.
I am guessing, though, that none of this is what you want, so Im wondering what you are looking for. Is it that you object to having to pay for things? Organisations that deal with dementia are not "sexy"; dementia is the new taboo disease and there is very little money in it, so everyone is strapped for cash. Its not the way any of us would like it, but thats the way it is. There are no easy answers. Dementia itself makes helping difficult as the person with dementia will often refuse help and insist that their carer does everything for them with no outside help. So you have to learn new ways of doing things and new ways of coping.
There are many threads on here about how to deal with practical things like washing/bathing, aggression, incontinence and if your mum needs specific help with something TP is a treasure trove of ideas and information