Hi Izzy. I know what you mean about being different =. I have a foot in each camp on that one I must admit. Thank you for describing it as a rollercoaster. That fits my feeling and yes I have discovered only recently that it is best to go with the flow. Thank you.Grieving is so different for everyone. I know it’s a cliche but I have found grieving a real roller coaster. I have spells when everything is ‘ok’ and times when I’m hit by a wave of grief. I just go with the flow as it were. No rights or wrongs.
Just remember to keep posting here - I have always found the forum massive support and I'm sure you will too.Hi Izzy. I know what you mean about being different =. I have a foot in each camp on that one I must admit. Thank you for describing it as a rollercoaster. That fits my feeling and yes I have discovered only recently that it is best to go with the flow. Thank you.
Hi Jaymor. I lost my mum about that time, just over three and a half years ago and like your memory can affect me deeply. But not every time. I sit in her lounge, at her kitchen table work in her garden still. I even have my desk where her bed used to be and that all seems fine to me.For me I’m sure there will always be bad moments, bad days and it’s over three and a half years since I lost my husband. Just a memory can put me down but as I’ll never be able to stop these moments I’ll accept and sit them out, a bad day today does not mean it will be a bad day tomorrow.
Most days are good days, ones to be enjoyed and hopefully, make new memories. I had a long and good marriage, there is a price to pay for that.
So it really is a time when we do need to go with the flow,
A proper whirlwind sound so appropriate. I don't think I'll ever know if I have of not grieved enough. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me.How we grieve is a different experience for each individual. I know from previous generations, grief was very real. Wearing black for at least 6 mths after the death, not going to anything that was joyous for the same period of time, even longer but I guess that may not apply to some people now.
I wear a lot of black anyway! Personally I don’t feel like I have grieved enough for my mum SS life has been a proper whirlwind of events ever since her death & still is.
I had no warning of what to expect when my mum died but after 3 years I am hoping for things to ease a bit. It is the comfort I miss so much and cannot replace. Thx.Mum died last week and I find myself grieving more than I expected. On Friday I went in Tesco and they had a big display of Cadbury's giant buttons on offer, right inside the door. I used to buy lots of them when they were on offer and took mum a bag every week.
I just stared at the display then had to leave the store. Sometimes it's the little things...