My husband of 55years has vascular dementia and mild cognitive impairment. At the moment life can be almost normal, but he is very childlike and relies on me to sort out everything, most of which I have always done anyway, but I am increasingly becoming less and less tolerant of him and I feel guilty for it. Toilet habits are a big issue with him and I usually get a blow by blow account ( aint life wonderful!!) Yesterday was a really bad day for me. I dont sleep well and after a period of reading in the kitchen, returned to bed about 2am. I was woken a while later by an amorous 87 yr old (we havent been intimate for many years) who was in such a state he was shaking with emotion and proceeded to stroking my arm and muttering to himself trying to get closer to me. I felt very intimidated and unsure what to do. Trying not to be nasty (I wanted to) I told him we should get some sleep and he settled down eventually. This isnt the first time its happened recently. I was so upset and tearful, a culmination of things, I rang the Doctor asking for help for me (antidepressants) and I did tell him what had happened during the night but I dont think he was really concerned - he doesnt know me. There have been lots of odd incidents when I've wondered what the hell he is talking about, if I question it he gets angry. He spends a lot of time so called telling me something but I havent a clue what he's talking about. Most of the time I dont bother to listen anymore.
I was talking to a friend who has been through the same experience of dementia with her late husband and she is telling me I need some help, but I question if the time is right. My husband is not a social person, doesnt join clubs and has few friends, so I cant see him agreeing to going to a day centre at the moment even if there are any open. I just thought maybe someone could give me their thoughts
We dont have a social worker or even a number to contact anyone for help and advice
Thank you for taking the time to read anyway
I was talking to a friend who has been through the same experience of dementia with her late husband and she is telling me I need some help, but I question if the time is right. My husband is not a social person, doesnt join clubs and has few friends, so I cant see him agreeing to going to a day centre at the moment even if there are any open. I just thought maybe someone could give me their thoughts
We dont have a social worker or even a number to contact anyone for help and advice
Thank you for taking the time to read anyway