Feeling desperate .My mother has vascular dementia and has been in a nursing home for over a year and a half. She has been immobile since last year and then 3 months ago she had a stroke and she has been bed bound since with little or no response or communication. She has been declining so slowly. We thought we had lost her in June after the stroke but she gained consciousness again . She was 96 last week but was unaware of my brother and myself . She has hardly been eating over the summer and extremely skeletal now . She hasnt been eating anything last week or so and is sleeping all the time and any pressure pains etc are well managed. They are just keeping her comfortable . She doesnt know us and has to be wakened to be given a drink. Our mum has already drifted away from us and we are ready for her to be released. She has a strong heart but how long can she go like this?. Even the nursing staff are astonished that she is still alive but it is so so painful to watch her barely exist.