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Well tonight has been fun. My father 81, suffers from vasdem. Lives in SH. Has a door alarm etc fitted for when he decided to wander. I don't live close by.. 20 odd mins away. Community alarms called me at 11.07pm tonite to say dad had opened his door, wasn't answering them speaking over the intercom and was off... I drove over panicking at stupid speed with visions of him getting hit by a car.. all the scenario s that go through your head. There are no wardens on at night in the sheltered housing complex, but they located a support worker 17 mins away. . I was ill. . He always responded to the intercom if he set off the alarm but now he seems oblivious. He said he hates his life. . And doesn't want to go to a "funny farm" as he calls it.. hes lives on his own.. I have no other family to help in this instance, I wouldn't ask them to drive round at night looking for him.. as I drove over tonight worrying I thought I can't keep doing this.. I promised him I wouldn't go down CH route but I cant keep worrying .. I have a six yr old and a 40+hr job . I do all housework, finance shopping etc n feel burnt out. Don't gave a social worker but have key worker at memory clinic. I usually cope but feel tired just now.. he does all his own personal care etc has brought me up since my mum died when I was 11 and I feel so guilty I felt I wanted to give up...
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Well tonight has been fun. My father 81, suffers from vasdem. Lives in SH. Has a door alarm etc fitted for when he decided to wander. I don't live close by.. 20 odd mins away. Community alarms called me at 11.07pm tonite to say dad had opened his door, wasn't answering them speaking over the intercom and was off... I drove over panicking at stupid speed with visions of him getting hit by a car.. all the scenario s that go through your head. There are no wardens on at night in the sheltered housing complex, but they located a support worker 17 mins away. . I was ill. . He always responded to the intercom if he set off the alarm but now he seems oblivious. He said he hates his life. . And doesn't want to go to a "funny farm" as he calls it.. hes lives on his own.. I have no other family to help in this instance, I wouldn't ask them to drive round at night looking for him.. as I drove over tonight worrying I thought I can't keep doing this.. I promised him I wouldn't go down CH route but I cant keep worrying .. I have a six yr old and a 40+hr job . I do all housework, finance shopping etc n feel burnt out. Don't gave a social worker but have key worker at memory clinic. I usually cope but feel tired just now.. he does all his own personal care etc has brought me up since my mum died when I was 11 and I feel so guilty I felt I wanted to give up...
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