Hello - I'm new to the forum and wanted to ask advice. My mum lives on her own in sheltered housing in a second floor flat. She has carers going in for half an hour morning and evening and has meals on wheels at lunch time. She goes to a day centre one day a week, but it is becoming increasingly difficult to get her there as she says she doesn't like it. She is becoming very isolated and basically just sits in her chair all day watching TV.
More recently she is having delusions and imagining all kinds of horrible things such as me having my throat cut or my niece being kidnapped and killed. When she has these thoughts she becomes very distressed and agitated. Last week she was found wandering outside in a distressed state because she thought her brother had died (in fact he died 20 years ago). This is the first time I know of that she has wandered out of the flat and negotiated the stairs on her own.
I worry about her constantly as she has now lost the ability to use the phone and I hate to think of her alone feeling upset. She keeps saying she wants to live with me or with someone who will care for her and asks me not to leave her alone. I have spoken with social services and they said they would aim to keep her at home for as long as possible but will up her care package. My main concern is if she wandered again as she lives right by a main road and by a level crossing.
I never thought I would want my mum to go into a care home, but now feel this would be the best option - I could ask for her to be moved closer to me so that I could see her every day and I would at least know she was not alone and that she was safe.
Any thought or words of wisdom?
More recently she is having delusions and imagining all kinds of horrible things such as me having my throat cut or my niece being kidnapped and killed. When she has these thoughts she becomes very distressed and agitated. Last week she was found wandering outside in a distressed state because she thought her brother had died (in fact he died 20 years ago). This is the first time I know of that she has wandered out of the flat and negotiated the stairs on her own.
I worry about her constantly as she has now lost the ability to use the phone and I hate to think of her alone feeling upset. She keeps saying she wants to live with me or with someone who will care for her and asks me not to leave her alone. I have spoken with social services and they said they would aim to keep her at home for as long as possible but will up her care package. My main concern is if she wandered again as she lives right by a main road and by a level crossing.
I never thought I would want my mum to go into a care home, but now feel this would be the best option - I could ask for her to be moved closer to me so that I could see her every day and I would at least know she was not alone and that she was safe.
Any thought or words of wisdom?