Hello everyone. This is my first post. My mother has just been diagnosed with AD and is in her mid-60's. I have been told that she is in the initial stages of the disease. She has just begun Reminyl.
My question is this really: At what point do I admit to my mother that she needs extra support from carers etc? AD has never been mentioned to my mother so far, only that she is suffering from 'memory problems'. She herself first mentioned AD a number of years ago, when her memory problems first became apparent but the family always laughed this off. Sadly, it was prophetic...... My mother lives alone in sheltered accom. and is managing to be independent in a fashion (I look after bills, bank accts etc). But it has become apparent that she is not eating properly. She has admitted that she is forgetting to eat. Also, out of date food is now becoming an issue with the real possibility of food poisoning. (I have just bought a date, day month clock for her wall). My mother's mental health therapist has advised me to pay for daily meals, with a carer to come in and prepare them for her to ensure that they are eaten. The problem is getting my mother's approval to do this. When I have tried to discuss her 'memory problems' she becomes very upset and defensive, refusing to admit that there is an issue (to the extent that there is). She downplays the struggle she obviously has on a day to day basis. I don't want to say to her that she has AD yet but she can't continue to have a poor diet as she will, I am sure, very quickly go into decline. Your thoughts please would be gratefully accepted. PS: (The diagnosis has been a real trauma and has left me feeling uncertain and unsure of anything that is related to my mother and the disease.
My question is this really: At what point do I admit to my mother that she needs extra support from carers etc? AD has never been mentioned to my mother so far, only that she is suffering from 'memory problems'. She herself first mentioned AD a number of years ago, when her memory problems first became apparent but the family always laughed this off. Sadly, it was prophetic...... My mother lives alone in sheltered accom. and is managing to be independent in a fashion (I look after bills, bank accts etc). But it has become apparent that she is not eating properly. She has admitted that she is forgetting to eat. Also, out of date food is now becoming an issue with the real possibility of food poisoning. (I have just bought a date, day month clock for her wall). My mother's mental health therapist has advised me to pay for daily meals, with a carer to come in and prepare them for her to ensure that they are eaten. The problem is getting my mother's approval to do this. When I have tried to discuss her 'memory problems' she becomes very upset and defensive, refusing to admit that there is an issue (to the extent that there is). She downplays the struggle she obviously has on a day to day basis. I don't want to say to her that she has AD yet but she can't continue to have a poor diet as she will, I am sure, very quickly go into decline. Your thoughts please would be gratefully accepted. PS: (The diagnosis has been a real trauma and has left me feeling uncertain and unsure of anything that is related to my mother and the disease.