My mum was diagnosed about 2 years ago and is nearly 91, she does really well, but a combination of the dementia and simple old age is meaning I am seeing more and more confusion and she is going down hill. She still lives at home and will not entertain moving anywhere else (accuses me of trying to take her home). She is prone to writing cheques and not remembering, to falls and not knowing why she has medication. There is not family apart from myself and my husband and we both work full time and I travel quite a bit.
The situation is running me down and I simply cannot be at mums during the week. It's like living 2 lives at once. Mum does go to a day centre 1-2 days do can go into town, she doesn't know what she has done on any day when I call and it is increasingly worrying. I want her to stay at home as long as possible, but how long?
Even though I have an assessment booked she won't get any help as she has more than the minimum savings, but I don't know what type of help to get.
I want some reassurance that when I can't be there she is ok or is eating etc. I know the issue is that she is getting worse, but not bad enough to go into a home.
Has anybody been in this situation and what did you do?
The situation is running me down and I simply cannot be at mums during the week. It's like living 2 lives at once. Mum does go to a day centre 1-2 days do can go into town, she doesn't know what she has done on any day when I call and it is increasingly worrying. I want her to stay at home as long as possible, but how long?
Even though I have an assessment booked she won't get any help as she has more than the minimum savings, but I don't know what type of help to get.
I want some reassurance that when I can't be there she is ok or is eating etc. I know the issue is that she is getting worse, but not bad enough to go into a home.
Has anybody been in this situation and what did you do?