Advice please. My mother was diagnosed with Early onset Alz 3 years ago. She is now 63. She has a 15 year history of depression with 2 episodes requiring ECT. We are lucky in some respects that we are able to work with a great agency who provide carers that stay with mum 24/7 in her home. My father died a year ago.
At the moment, mum cannot be left on her own and although fit and active, she is very confused much of the time (stills thinks dad will come home, wants to 'go home' as in to the home she was born in, wants to 'see mummy' (who died 10 years ago). Unable to read, write (due to lack of concentration), or take much pleasure from very much. Bowel incontinence alos becoming a problem. She cries incessantly but doesn't know why she is crying and is obviously depressed (on medication)
The problem is that there is only me and my sister who visit her - neither of us are local, we both have to work and both have very small children. So called friends disappeared and essentially if we don't see her, mum sees very few people. we were aiming to get 3 or 4 regular carers to come back on a rota to care for mum, but they find it very hard as mum has no interests,is very intense on a 1:1 basis all the time and they have to 'fill' a day, so we are getting different carers (who are very kind) but mum gets very distressed on change over days.
We have looked into day centres for younger poeple but mum got so distressed. Going out Mum gets very agitated when going anywhere then wants to come back as soon as they have left.
My sister always thought that keeping mum in her own home was the priority, but we are in a huge dilemma about whether infact she would be better to go into a good home for younger people with Alz (if we can find one) as there would be more people around (mum lives in a pretty, but very isolated village) as mum is socially very isolated and lonely. Hopefull there would be more consistency in people caring for her as well. My sister and I just do not have the capacity to organise activities for the week, and having new carers all the time is making mum so unsettled every 10 days to 2 weeks.
Has anyone else been been in this dilemma? What did you do?
Many thanks.
At the moment, mum cannot be left on her own and although fit and active, she is very confused much of the time (stills thinks dad will come home, wants to 'go home' as in to the home she was born in, wants to 'see mummy' (who died 10 years ago). Unable to read, write (due to lack of concentration), or take much pleasure from very much. Bowel incontinence alos becoming a problem. She cries incessantly but doesn't know why she is crying and is obviously depressed (on medication)
The problem is that there is only me and my sister who visit her - neither of us are local, we both have to work and both have very small children. So called friends disappeared and essentially if we don't see her, mum sees very few people. we were aiming to get 3 or 4 regular carers to come back on a rota to care for mum, but they find it very hard as mum has no interests,is very intense on a 1:1 basis all the time and they have to 'fill' a day, so we are getting different carers (who are very kind) but mum gets very distressed on change over days.
We have looked into day centres for younger poeple but mum got so distressed. Going out Mum gets very agitated when going anywhere then wants to come back as soon as they have left.
My sister always thought that keeping mum in her own home was the priority, but we are in a huge dilemma about whether infact she would be better to go into a good home for younger people with Alz (if we can find one) as there would be more people around (mum lives in a pretty, but very isolated village) as mum is socially very isolated and lonely. Hopefull there would be more consistency in people caring for her as well. My sister and I just do not have the capacity to organise activities for the week, and having new carers all the time is making mum so unsettled every 10 days to 2 weeks.
Has anyone else been been in this dilemma? What did you do?
Many thanks.