Hi,
MIL has had carers in 4 times a day since Dec 2020 (my wife has lived in and cared for her mum since end of Aug 2020) I have posted before about steroids and the change for the better they made in MIL's demeanor and sadly the consultant is reducing steroids and with this the old uncooperative behaviour is creeping back in.
I wondered how others dealt with the person they are caring for refusing to let Carers change them and deal with their hygiene requirements as when this happens (not on every visit) the carers say we cant make her so we have to leave her to you to deal with and my wife then ends up doing the changes on her own if MIL agrees to it.
There is no POA in place as MIL totally refused to do one when she was able to and now she can no longer sign her name.
She has carers 4 times a day and each day she is getting more and more difficult with not only us but the carers.
She is double incontinent and bedridden apart from us being able to put her in a recliner chair when she agrees to it, so these changes are absolutely necessary so what if she totally refused is she to be left unchanged and unclean?
Of course my wife would never allow this even if it meant she changed her mother regardless of refusal, it just makes things all the more stressful and harder to cope when MIL has these moments and they are becoming more frequent and more aggressive in Tone! we tense up each time the door goes as MIL starts effing and jeffing "dont let them in I am not having it"
MIL has had carers in 4 times a day since Dec 2020 (my wife has lived in and cared for her mum since end of Aug 2020) I have posted before about steroids and the change for the better they made in MIL's demeanor and sadly the consultant is reducing steroids and with this the old uncooperative behaviour is creeping back in.
I wondered how others dealt with the person they are caring for refusing to let Carers change them and deal with their hygiene requirements as when this happens (not on every visit) the carers say we cant make her so we have to leave her to you to deal with and my wife then ends up doing the changes on her own if MIL agrees to it.
There is no POA in place as MIL totally refused to do one when she was able to and now she can no longer sign her name.
She has carers 4 times a day and each day she is getting more and more difficult with not only us but the carers.
She is double incontinent and bedridden apart from us being able to put her in a recliner chair when she agrees to it, so these changes are absolutely necessary so what if she totally refused is she to be left unchanged and unclean?
Of course my wife would never allow this even if it meant she changed her mother regardless of refusal, it just makes things all the more stressful and harder to cope when MIL has these moments and they are becoming more frequent and more aggressive in Tone! we tense up each time the door goes as MIL starts effing and jeffing "dont let them in I am not having it"