Im so lost and confused in teying to help my Mam.
She's 95, in a care home and showing all the signs of end of life with dementia. Losing weight (3 kgs this week alone), cant sit up herself, cant walk, eating only very limited amounts (perhaps 3 spooons of mash per day). We have asked for her to remain in bed where she is comfortable and sleeping a lot, she always preferred her own room and didnt like being in the communal room. Now the home want to move her to sit in the residents lounge every day (they say to ptevent bed sores) but we know Mam wouldnt want this, shes too fragile and just wants to sleep. I feel our wishes and knowledge of Mam and what she would eant is being ignored. Im so emotional and stsrt crying when trying to get the point across to them. She wants to be left in peace. They keep talking of prolonging her life for as long as possible and making her eat more and give supplements. Shes tired, we know she wants to just go to sleep and be at peace. Why are they insisting on this. Im so frustrated. Any advice?
She's 95, in a care home and showing all the signs of end of life with dementia. Losing weight (3 kgs this week alone), cant sit up herself, cant walk, eating only very limited amounts (perhaps 3 spooons of mash per day). We have asked for her to remain in bed where she is comfortable and sleeping a lot, she always preferred her own room and didnt like being in the communal room. Now the home want to move her to sit in the residents lounge every day (they say to ptevent bed sores) but we know Mam wouldnt want this, shes too fragile and just wants to sleep. I feel our wishes and knowledge of Mam and what she would eant is being ignored. Im so emotional and stsrt crying when trying to get the point across to them. She wants to be left in peace. They keep talking of prolonging her life for as long as possible and making her eat more and give supplements. Shes tired, we know she wants to just go to sleep and be at peace. Why are they insisting on this. Im so frustrated. Any advice?