I along with one of my brothers help to care for my mum with mixed dementia, Had a bad few weeks with we think the mermantine , dosage now reduced and although no improvement on the memory etc, not feeling dizzy now and no calls so far this week to 999.
My brother seems reluctant to consider a care home, but I dont know how much longer I can keep this pace up, I get calls at work and have to leave at the drop of a hat, so does he, the paramedic is now on first name terms as mum keeps ringing 999 and then they ring me or my brother,
I feel guilty for working and having my own family,we have carers at various times of the day, it is frustrating that I have to keep answering the same questions, I try to look for alternative answers, but it is also heartbreaking to hear my mum ask for her mum and dad, sister and brother (all dead for many years). I play along with the buying food for my dad (dead for 20 years). everytime i go and i call 3 / 4 times a day i get asked have you come to take me home? - how do I keep answering this question? I no longer try to explain that the house she is in has been the family home for 40 years and try to ask her what was great about the place she thinks is home
My brother seems reluctant to consider a care home, but I dont know how much longer I can keep this pace up, I get calls at work and have to leave at the drop of a hat, so does he, the paramedic is now on first name terms as mum keeps ringing 999 and then they ring me or my brother,
I feel guilty for working and having my own family,we have carers at various times of the day, it is frustrating that I have to keep answering the same questions, I try to look for alternative answers, but it is also heartbreaking to hear my mum ask for her mum and dad, sister and brother (all dead for many years). I play along with the buying food for my dad (dead for 20 years). everytime i go and i call 3 / 4 times a day i get asked have you come to take me home? - how do I keep answering this question? I no longer try to explain that the house she is in has been the family home for 40 years and try to ask her what was great about the place she thinks is home