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What mum remembers & what she doesn't....


Registered User
Aug 10, 2015
North Essex
Have known for a while there is something wrong with mums memory, short term recollection is shocking and she is displaying signs of dementia: won't confront it, gets agitated, but loses concentration quickly, accuses me of ' making it up', asks same qs over & over ....on & on..

But she remembers her pin daily, keeps note of everything she spends, can rattle off tel nos, knows the sky TV channel, puts her make up on to perfection & does her hair & housework is done religously daily......sometimes I think she is being cantankerous on purpose, but I do know its dementia related as her 2 older sisters had vas dementia.

What amazes you about your loved one??


Registered User
Mar 11, 2014
My hubby was an expert bird watcher until AD claimed his ability to remember the names of what he sees, but if a bird sings he is able to name it immediately. Never fails to amaze me.


Registered User
Aug 1, 2014
Victoria, Australia
My OH can still play bridge though he says he sometimes has trouble remembering what cards have been played. I suspect that he is not playing very well but there are a few others at the club with dementia so he really enjoys it.


Registered User
Aug 1, 2014
Victoria, Australia
It partly depends on who is playing with. A couple of his playing partners are very good and he feels confident and relaxed with them so tends to play a better game. Another partner is fairly inexperienced and then he struggles and moans a bit about her when they have a bad day. And he does get tired and says his concentration fails him after a while.

A club member picks him up and brings him home, I know he is enjoying himself so I am making the most of it while it lasts.


Registered User
Nov 23, 2011
Auckland, New Zealand
The other day OH was reading a specialist's letter (didn't think he had it, don't know where he's been hiding it!) which said that his ACE-R score had declined from 71 to 64. His comment was, "I think we've got through that alright." He thinks he's not as bad as he was! This letter was about 2.5 years old.

Plan to find a new home for that letter. :)


Registered User
Mar 26, 2011
Near Southampton
Saskia, that sounds very similar to the way my husband was. He had vascular dementia. I mentioned to the consultant psychiatrist that he was struggling with words but could remember numbers easily and he said it was dependent on which part of
the brain was affected, that is which part of the brain was no longer receiving a healthy blood supply.
I dare say this will work the other way round too.

Pear trees

Registered User
Jan 25, 2015
My mum can recognise the ladies at her lunch club and their names, but can't remember family names or recognise family members. She calls me to my face the bossy b**** !