I feel that the loneliness of caring for someone with this illness, the hardest to bear......seeing your last family member slowly slipping away from you is the unkindest cut of all. You learn so much from your parents then suddenly......role reversal.....It feels so alien and yes....lonely. I often wish my beloved brother and mother were still here BUT....... We plod on as best we can with all the goodwill in the world." Happy birthday Mum " 78 today! Jan.