What is the best thing to do?

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by Jodilynn0303, Jul 30, 2007.

  1. paul86

    paul86 Registered User

    Jul 19, 2007
    2
    sheffield
    Hi Jodillyn

    I hope by now the replies that you have had are giving you stength and support in helping you decide what you need to do.
    I too endorse everything that has been said to you on this thread. I suspect that you have always been depended upon in many other aspects of family life because you have the courage, skills and compassion. However its now time for those around you to care for you otherwise if your wellbeing suffers who will care for uncle then.
    Your guilt is a perfectly normal feeling to have and understandable but is eating away at you. You can make a positive out of this by sharing your concerns as you have begun to do so already, your imediate family need to step in and make decisions together and recognise the stress you are under. The simple fact is you are coping and managing very well but at what cost to yourself, your child, husband, uncle and mil. Please seek all the help on offer and sooner rather than later. I would suggest your uncle needs an urgent CPN assessment or even a psychiatrist or GP home visit as there could be some medical reasoning for changes in your uncles behaviour . How about letting your husband read your threads and all the replies you have had..Would this help?

    Take care and good luck
    Paul86:)
     
  2. Margaret W

    Margaret W Registered User

    Apr 28, 2007
    3,725
    North Derbyshire
    Jodylinn

    I can't really offer advice, except to say that I don't really think you deserve to be in this position, it seems very extreme, and you must look after yourself and your immediate family as a priority. You seem to be trying to do everything for everyone, and that is admirable if you can do it, but you don't have to, and if you can't cope it is better to hand it over to those who can and should. Don't feel bad, you sound as if you have done a great deal, and all credit to you, but you can't do the impossible. Look after yourseld and your immediate family.

    Love

    Margaret
     
  3. dolly gee

    dolly gee Registered User

    Mar 9, 2007
    47
    merseyside
    just read your mail you really are have a bad time i know what you are going through think it is time to think of yourself and do the what is right for you and your uncle he needs to go in to care for your sake and for his own goodluck dolly gee
     
  4. Margaret W

    Margaret W Registered User

    Apr 28, 2007
    3,725
    North Derbyshire
    The situation

    What on earth do you mean "it is all my fault" you are a star of caring and compassion, and what you are doing is way beyond the call of duty. Good luck to you my love and I wish you every benfit for the future.

    Margaret
     

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