Hi All,
What do you do when you go on holiday? My hubby and I are the main carers for my MIL & FIL (one with Alzheimers and the other with vascular dementia). They live in Sheltered Accommodation so have pullcords etc for emergencies but no other help. We visit daily to ensure medication is takne correctly and take them a hot meal every day. On top of this, we ring them several times a day to prompt other medication, remind them to have breakfast etc etc. Neither are now able to prepare anything other than cereal or make a sandwich (with help). My sister visits them 3 mornings a week to help out too.
We have just about managed in the past to take our holidays without too much going wrong. Last year, although they needed much more help than previously, my mom (much younger and very active) and my sister took over the caring while we were away. Things have got much worse in the last 12 months however and I they need much more assistance now.
My inlaws are totally against having help from anyone outside the family - they refuse to let us involve Social Services andto be honest, we have always done it for them so we have made a bit of a rod for our own backs.
However, we really do need our 2 week break - to recharge our own batteries!!!
I presume that we could get private care agencies involved or i have considered respite - but they would have to agree to that and i dont even know if there are any places where couples could go!
Any suggestions would really be appreciated.
Tracey x
What do you do when you go on holiday? My hubby and I are the main carers for my MIL & FIL (one with Alzheimers and the other with vascular dementia). They live in Sheltered Accommodation so have pullcords etc for emergencies but no other help. We visit daily to ensure medication is takne correctly and take them a hot meal every day. On top of this, we ring them several times a day to prompt other medication, remind them to have breakfast etc etc. Neither are now able to prepare anything other than cereal or make a sandwich (with help). My sister visits them 3 mornings a week to help out too.
We have just about managed in the past to take our holidays without too much going wrong. Last year, although they needed much more help than previously, my mom (much younger and very active) and my sister took over the caring while we were away. Things have got much worse in the last 12 months however and I they need much more assistance now.
My inlaws are totally against having help from anyone outside the family - they refuse to let us involve Social Services andto be honest, we have always done it for them so we have made a bit of a rod for our own backs.
However, we really do need our 2 week break - to recharge our own batteries!!!
I presume that we could get private care agencies involved or i have considered respite - but they would have to agree to that and i dont even know if there are any places where couples could go!
Any suggestions would really be appreciated.
Tracey x
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