Dad (vascular dementia) seems to have deteriorated so much during the last 4 weeks. We've gone from 4/5 good/ 2/3 bad days a week to probably only 1 or 2 good ones. No signs of infection causing this deterioration. He still lives in his own house, I can't be there all the time. I can't move in. I just can't. It's too much. I've made it as safe a I can. All gas disconnected etc.
He has always been vehemently against care homes and still is. He's told me this waaay before the dementia. He says he wants to die at home. But it's getting so difficult keeping him there, For the first time, a couple of weeks ago, he got violent with me. 20 mins later he had no recollection and asked why I was crying. It broke my heart because I know it wasn't the real him.
So I guess it's going to have to come to crisis point. What do I do then? Do I call Social Services? An ambulance? I'm totally lost right now.
He has always been vehemently against care homes and still is. He's told me this waaay before the dementia. He says he wants to die at home. But it's getting so difficult keeping him there, For the first time, a couple of weeks ago, he got violent with me. 20 mins later he had no recollection and asked why I was crying. It broke my heart because I know it wasn't the real him.
So I guess it's going to have to come to crisis point. What do I do then? Do I call Social Services? An ambulance? I'm totally lost right now.