Well what a scare I had yesterday. As usual on my day off work I look after my daughter and niece (both aged 2) and my mum. Yesterday I also had my 8 year old nephew and my mother in law. Foolishly perhaps we changed routine because I wanted to take the girls to a "beach" they had set up in our town centre with donkey rides and stuff. Thought it would be okay as I had my MIL with me. Plonked mum down in a deck chair next to MIL (who I'm blessed to have cos she's great with mum) while I looked after the kids. MIL looked away for 30 seconds - mum had gone. Never been so frantic in my life. It was lucky my MIL was with me otherwise I'd never have found mum with the kids in tow - as it was I left them with MIL and took off running round looking for her - where do I find her? In M&S buying curry - she doesn't even like curry!!! I know that these things are going to happen but when I tried to talk to dad about it he just brushed it off as not being important because she does it when he's out with her. I tried to explain that I'm not always in a position to run after her with two toddlers but he just didn't get it at all. Even my MIL tried to talk to him about getting mum a carer when she's out with me so at least I wouldn't have to try to keep my eyes on everyone at once but he's not having it because he thinks mum wouldn't like it. The problem is that once my sister and I have another baby, on my day off I'm going to have four children under the age of three!! How can I chase mum as well? I'm so frustrated with him but the more I push him the worse he gets but if I don't push him he still does nothing. I even had to take her out to the pictures last night so he could go to a local AZ group (which is a big step for him I'll admit) and then drive her home at 15 miles an hour because he wasn't back and he doesn't want her to know he was gone. I stopped for petrol, I let out a hundred cars in front of me - she must have wondered what on earth I was doing!!! I'm sorry to whine but I'm just so frustrated!!!