Hi all,
my worry is not a new one it has been with me for several years , until now I have been able to control the pain with medication but I am finding that I have to consider having my both knees reconstructed one at a time, due to sever arthritus, which leads me too my worry of who will look after mum?
The thought of putting her in respite care again is a big worry for me ,even though the doctor explained I would be eligable for emergency respite the thought of mum being upset again is very hard to cope with.
mum did not like her resent stay for 2 weeks in respite so I can imagine this time will not be any better. When I mention it to mum she always says, " I will be alright on my own" I then feel more guilty as she does not realize she has to have 24/7 care .
I think we would be looking at 1month ,I understand that I am not indispensible and I know that she would have good care so WHY am I worring?
Also I have arranged for a psycholigist to visit mum at home ( not sure when as they are very busy ) hope its this side of christmas .
Regards paris07
my worry is not a new one it has been with me for several years , until now I have been able to control the pain with medication but I am finding that I have to consider having my both knees reconstructed one at a time, due to sever arthritus, which leads me too my worry of who will look after mum?
The thought of putting her in respite care again is a big worry for me ,even though the doctor explained I would be eligable for emergency respite the thought of mum being upset again is very hard to cope with.
mum did not like her resent stay for 2 weeks in respite so I can imagine this time will not be any better. When I mention it to mum she always says, " I will be alright on my own" I then feel more guilty as she does not realize she has to have 24/7 care .
I think we would be looking at 1month ,I understand that I am not indispensible and I know that she would have good care so WHY am I worring?
Also I have arranged for a psycholigist to visit mum at home ( not sure when as they are very busy ) hope its this side of christmas .
Regards paris07