Ok I have not been on here for a while ( things have sort of been ok).
Dad is 91 now bless him and getting really quite frail as you can imagine. He lives in the moment as he has no short term memory at all and for the most part is fairly confused most of the time but still manages to communicate, he is still fairly independent around the care home)
. He recently had a fall and injured his arm ( thankfully no breaks) . His mobility is 'just' ok and he uses the hand rails in the residential home to get about. He does have a walking stick sometimes. He had his own but that was taken off him when he first went in several years ago as he hit other residents when he was in his state of emotional turmoil. He is for the most part quite calm now but very occasionally he can still have a little irritation towards other residents that moan a lot. I have not witnessed it BUT I know dad and that fits with his personality.
Ok .. the issue of the walking stick. he needs it for his mobility now. 99% of the time he is fine ( calm .. sleeps most of the time and is not a bit of bother) but the care home take his stick away and say he has to manage with just the hand rails but to my mind that is just cruel now.
He is choosing not to walk around much now because he is getting frightened without a walking stick. I think they are not handling this particularly well to be honest. We as a family have asked repeated for a mobility assessment for aids and it is falling on deaf ears ( reaching point of asking for a private physio to go in and work with my dad to get him moving.. not sure how feasible that is but may explore that option) .
Any way I thought I would post on here to get other opinions as to whether I am being unreasonable or not .. I dont think so but maybe I am wrong ? I could do with a few responses as I dont want to create waves if I am out of order and being unrealisic in my expectation that they should be encouraging independence and managing the occasional issue with dad.
I feel very unsure how to manage this situation.
Dad is 91 now bless him and getting really quite frail as you can imagine. He lives in the moment as he has no short term memory at all and for the most part is fairly confused most of the time but still manages to communicate, he is still fairly independent around the care home)
. He recently had a fall and injured his arm ( thankfully no breaks) . His mobility is 'just' ok and he uses the hand rails in the residential home to get about. He does have a walking stick sometimes. He had his own but that was taken off him when he first went in several years ago as he hit other residents when he was in his state of emotional turmoil. He is for the most part quite calm now but very occasionally he can still have a little irritation towards other residents that moan a lot. I have not witnessed it BUT I know dad and that fits with his personality.
Ok .. the issue of the walking stick. he needs it for his mobility now. 99% of the time he is fine ( calm .. sleeps most of the time and is not a bit of bother) but the care home take his stick away and say he has to manage with just the hand rails but to my mind that is just cruel now.
He is choosing not to walk around much now because he is getting frightened without a walking stick. I think they are not handling this particularly well to be honest. We as a family have asked repeated for a mobility assessment for aids and it is falling on deaf ears ( reaching point of asking for a private physio to go in and work with my dad to get him moving.. not sure how feasible that is but may explore that option) .
Any way I thought I would post on here to get other opinions as to whether I am being unreasonable or not .. I dont think so but maybe I am wrong ? I could do with a few responses as I dont want to create waves if I am out of order and being unrealisic in my expectation that they should be encouraging independence and managing the occasional issue with dad.
I feel very unsure how to manage this situation.