Thanks Izzy, Saffie, Gill for your photo comments. Yes it is nice to put faces to names, I love seeing TP photos.
Just looking at TV weather map, I can't believe the temperature is 20-22C in the far south of England! We've had rain quite often, yesterday I drove to a lovely (but expensive!) farm shop nearby through deep floods on the farm road. When it has been sunny there has been an annoying chilly wind.
Yes Saffie, it does help to talk/write to others in similar circumstances or who have experienced it. The experience and knowledge of TP is vast and I have learned a tremendous amount this past near year, far beyond the limitations of the official books on dementias.
I was recently thinking that if I have any money when I die I'd like to leave a legacy to whoever is responsbile for dementia training, nurses and carers. I feel so strongly about the need for training, knowledge of the realities of dementia, the importance of gaining first hand experience.
Perhaps I have quoted this before but one care home Report I read concerning a home which takes both frail elderly and dementia residents said:
"Very few staff have received dementia awareness training. This does not ensure good care practices when caring for people with dementia."
"The provider must ensure staff who are caring for people with dementia have undertaken training and have a good understanding of the illness and how it can present. The staff must receive effective and robust dementia awareness training."
I was horrified when I read this having assumed that any home caring for around 40 dementia residents, all in different stages, would have such training, and be experienced. Or being supervised by more experienced staff.
Oh, TV's in hospitals! In the first hospital when Henry was quite ill, in an eight bed ward, he was close to a TV, huge screen, which was too loud and he kept asking me to turn it down. Both the present Community Hospital sitting rooms are dominated by a large TV, and one man who has taken it over has the volume too loud. He has been in and out of the hospital four times, for many months at a time, and rules the roost. Resents anyone turning down the volume, or choosing another programme.
In the care homes I have visited, all sitting rooms have large TV's on, although two do have a quiet sitting area which I parti
cularly liked.
Although I was told they try to encourage residents into the sitting rooms rather than spending too much time in their rooms alone, I have bought a CD player for Henry's care home room as he is - or was - a music lover, and musical himself. Although doubt if he would be able to work it by himself now.
Good care homes do have activities, occasional concerts etc. Ask about that, or/and look for their notice of forthcoming events. Some homes claim to have a good activities programme yet Care Commission Reports say otherwise.
Although again I'm not sure Henry would participate, unless coaxed, now he has lost interest in so many things. He does like to 'people watch' and listen, even if he is quiet himself. There is more staff in the hospital; nurses, carers, domestics, and he takes a keen interest in them through the glass panel between sitting room and corridor. I see a lot less staff around in care homes.
and I said I really have no time to have something wrong with me just now. One more thing to worry aboout is one too many.
I am the same! I have indefinitely postponed two appointments, plus I have not kept my haematologist consultant appointment in Edinburgh. I should have gone in November!
I would have postponed my leg lymphoedema treatment if it had not become so bad and painful, too much going out, on my feet, and I do need it treated six monthly. (four monthly is recommended by the experts) Also should have three weeks as it is half way through the second week before there is any improvment, but two weeks is better than none at all.
No my daughter is not nearby, she is 150 miles away up in Aberdeenshire, moved there 32 years ago. We saw more of her and our grandchildren when we were all younger, but nowadays visits are few and far between, and we can no longer travel up there. So her visits are precious, but even under normal circumstances always hectic. I can't keep up with her pace. She also packs a lot in and catches up with near life-long friends, one very special one in particular.
We tend to too often sit into the wee sma' hours talking, but not this visit, must be sensible about that, a lot to fit in. By nature a night owl (also daughter) I'm getting too old to bounce back next day!
Do you visit Dave every day? I did do that, but have not been able to keep it up. I miss Henry when I miss a day, it feels like a long time since I saw him, and I worry about him missing me.
Poor Dave being in pain, tired, and the noises. Does he have a room of his own? Henry was better when the second hospital moved him from a four bed ward to a single room. The Community Hospital is all single en suite rooms, I think 19 o 20 in his ward, and 25 or 26 in another ward. The doors between the two wards are locked.
Night night.
Loo xxx