Hi,
My Dad in June 2022 showed very concerning signs that something was wrong. He was 87 lived alone and was very independent. I guess during the pandemic I must has missed the warning signs. I moved in with him but he just got worse, eventually being sectioned for 8 months with psychosis.
During the 8 months I took him out from the MH Hospital over weekends and moved in with him at his home. However, this was not ideal as his psychosis and paranoid behaviour was worsening. My brother decided as him and his wife were retired to sell their home and move in with my Dad. Whilst this was being finalised we took my Dad out of the hospital over the weekend as usual and after staying with him on Friday, my brother took over from me on Saturday afternoon and I headed home for some sleep. Unfortunately my Dad called me an hour later very distressed as my brother had suffered a heart attack whilst alone with my Dad. Despite my poor Dad trying to perform CPR my brother sadly passed away.
As I work full time, often away from home my Dad was admitted to a lovely care home (which he hates). It has been 18 months of DoLs assessments, Social Workers, Court of Protection, Solicitors and me educating myself on Sectioning, MH and his most recent diagnosis of Lewy Body. The illness has completely changed him from being just the loveliest man to an angry, paranoid, frightened and frail chap. On his 88th birthday this year he attempted to hit a fellow care home resident and fell and fractured his hip. He has been hospitalised for the last 6 weeks, where his psychosis is at the worst level I have seen. I’m hoping some of it is delirium and that what I am now seeing is not now the norm.
I have struggled to sleep for what seems like ever, which is impacting my job if I’m honest. So this message is hopefully the first step in me taking some control back.
I have learnt that dementia is an awful illness and that I need to develop a thick skin. But hoping for some advice please from any of you that have found a way to handle this better than I have?
It must have taken its toll because on my last visit to my Dad, a chap asked if my Dad was my brother. He’s 88 and I’m 59 😀
Thanks in advance,
Take care,
Steve
My Dad in June 2022 showed very concerning signs that something was wrong. He was 87 lived alone and was very independent. I guess during the pandemic I must has missed the warning signs. I moved in with him but he just got worse, eventually being sectioned for 8 months with psychosis.
During the 8 months I took him out from the MH Hospital over weekends and moved in with him at his home. However, this was not ideal as his psychosis and paranoid behaviour was worsening. My brother decided as him and his wife were retired to sell their home and move in with my Dad. Whilst this was being finalised we took my Dad out of the hospital over the weekend as usual and after staying with him on Friday, my brother took over from me on Saturday afternoon and I headed home for some sleep. Unfortunately my Dad called me an hour later very distressed as my brother had suffered a heart attack whilst alone with my Dad. Despite my poor Dad trying to perform CPR my brother sadly passed away.
As I work full time, often away from home my Dad was admitted to a lovely care home (which he hates). It has been 18 months of DoLs assessments, Social Workers, Court of Protection, Solicitors and me educating myself on Sectioning, MH and his most recent diagnosis of Lewy Body. The illness has completely changed him from being just the loveliest man to an angry, paranoid, frightened and frail chap. On his 88th birthday this year he attempted to hit a fellow care home resident and fell and fractured his hip. He has been hospitalised for the last 6 weeks, where his psychosis is at the worst level I have seen. I’m hoping some of it is delirium and that what I am now seeing is not now the norm.
I have struggled to sleep for what seems like ever, which is impacting my job if I’m honest. So this message is hopefully the first step in me taking some control back.
I have learnt that dementia is an awful illness and that I need to develop a thick skin. But hoping for some advice please from any of you that have found a way to handle this better than I have?
It must have taken its toll because on my last visit to my Dad, a chap asked if my Dad was my brother. He’s 88 and I’m 59 😀
Thanks in advance,
Take care,
Steve