Only for people who have as carers of someone with Vascular Dementia for more than 4 years (not Alzheimers).
I have my mother with vascular dementia,, she is not lost, but her personality is a bit different, she have memory loss, etc. Compulsive hoarding. Obsessive. Talkative.
She doesnt conceive she have this problem. Just recently she has been telling me she "forget where she put things", that at some point that is good, because she cant see that she is forgetting things ! Better than forget things and doesnt notice that.
I always known her personality problems and etc are due her stroke, but its something I never talked with her, because... why bother ? You cant say "you have cognitive problems due that stroke", just yesterday she talked about the memory problems and i say to her "well.... its the stroke... aftermath", and she told me "no... that was 10 years ago, this should be because the stress and the fibromialgia".
She is inlove with fibromialgia lately, she feels tired, because she need to make more exersice, but a better thing is to say she have fibromialgia, which she doesnt have a formal diagnosis, she just heard about it and asked to her doctor and the doctor said "yes, that happens".
She has been with this more than 10 years.
The problem is that she doesnt practice her brain more.
Anyway, just wanting to see others who care for one who just doesnt realize they have this problems, and "deal" with having to "keep in secret" this from them. I mean, we knowing this and dont talking with them about this, and talking with them as they dont have any problem, its like keep a secret from them, something we know and they dont realize.
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Some months ago she went for general analysis, and the Dr told her to draw a clock at 8:45am, and she couldnt, she sometimes can or not read the hour, but just think about draw, a clock, that just confuses her.
At some point the Dr asked her "do you... hear voices ?", and my mother was like "what she have wrong, how can she ask me this ?".
She cant pick the right glass for her glasses either, she get nerveous when she goes to the ophtalmologist, she "cant see" the letters, she pick too big (magnification) glasses.
And she thinks all this is normal.
I have my mother with vascular dementia,, she is not lost, but her personality is a bit different, she have memory loss, etc. Compulsive hoarding. Obsessive. Talkative.
She doesnt conceive she have this problem. Just recently she has been telling me she "forget where she put things", that at some point that is good, because she cant see that she is forgetting things ! Better than forget things and doesnt notice that.
I always known her personality problems and etc are due her stroke, but its something I never talked with her, because... why bother ? You cant say "you have cognitive problems due that stroke", just yesterday she talked about the memory problems and i say to her "well.... its the stroke... aftermath", and she told me "no... that was 10 years ago, this should be because the stress and the fibromialgia".
She is inlove with fibromialgia lately, she feels tired, because she need to make more exersice, but a better thing is to say she have fibromialgia, which she doesnt have a formal diagnosis, she just heard about it and asked to her doctor and the doctor said "yes, that happens".
She has been with this more than 10 years.
The problem is that she doesnt practice her brain more.
Anyway, just wanting to see others who care for one who just doesnt realize they have this problems, and "deal" with having to "keep in secret" this from them. I mean, we knowing this and dont talking with them about this, and talking with them as they dont have any problem, its like keep a secret from them, something we know and they dont realize.
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Some months ago she went for general analysis, and the Dr told her to draw a clock at 8:45am, and she couldnt, she sometimes can or not read the hour, but just think about draw, a clock, that just confuses her.
At some point the Dr asked her "do you... hear voices ?", and my mother was like "what she have wrong, how can she ask me this ?".
She cant pick the right glass for her glasses either, she get nerveous when she goes to the ophtalmologist, she "cant see" the letters, she pick too big (magnification) glasses.
And she thinks all this is normal.
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. After that I just referred to her "memory problem". Its not so much that I was keeping it secret from her, its that she was unable to understand it. I found that as I went on there were more and more things that I couldnt talk about because she could not understand them.
