Nursed mam for 9 years with Alzheimer’s, within a month of loosing her, my hubby was diagnosed with vascular ( approx 5 yrs ago) really struggling at current time
Vascular dementia
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my husband has had vascular dementia for 4 years now diagnosed 3 years ago. that must be hard that you looked after your mum only to find that your husband has it. must feel like a double whammy. he seems to have the skill one day then lost the next day.
Thank you 😊
I think I thought “well at least I know what’s coming, obv very wrong, feel like I lose a bit more of him each day,they say vascular happens in steps? Well I think he has just gone down another step and it’s a hard 1 to watch, skills lost overnight sounds so familiar.
Just generally loosing a bit more of him each day and so so argumentative 😞
I am so sorry @luc , so hard to nurse you mum, to then lose your husband to the disease. My husband has mixed Alzheimer's/vascular dementia, diagnosed 3 years ago. The last few months he has deteriorated a lot but I have really struggled with his behaviour. The aggression and wanting to argue every point is exhausting. xx
My husband was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s just before Christmas. It’s just so sad as he’s lost all self confidence and just seems like a lost soul. His father had vascular dementia and he sees himself going the same way 🤦♀️
I feel as though we’ve been robbed of our future together.
My husband relies on me for just about everything and that, in turn, makes me feel overwhelmed with worry.
This isn’t how I thought our lives would be…it’s beyond cruel
I feel as though we’ve been robbed of our future together.
My husband relies on me for just about everything and that, in turn, makes me feel overwhelmed with worry.
This isn’t how I thought our lives would be…it’s beyond cruel
Thankyou 😊
thank you for responding, I do try and stay positive but today is just one of those hard ones, will start with a new day tomorrow 😊
Welcome to Dementia Talking Point @Alison61 - I am so sorry to hear of your situation. My husband had early onset dementia too - he was 58 when he got diagnosed. Unlike yourself and @luc, neither my family nor my husband's had had any experience of dementia until his diagnosis.
In many ways that was a blessing for us because we had no real preconceptions about what might happen - I think my husband would have found things quite daunting if he'd had that kind of prior knowledge or experience.
This forum helped me prepare for the nitty gritty of what might happen and put strategies in place ahead of time, but my husband didn't want to know more than he already knew.
I found that it helped a great deal when I eventually started a thread of my own - that way support became more easily targeted to what I/we were facing at any given time.
When you are ready it might help to start a new thread of your own under
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
Do keep posting, there are many here who understand what it is to have a partner diagnosed, particularly at a younger age.
In many ways that was a blessing for us because we had no real preconceptions about what might happen - I think my husband would have found things quite daunting if he'd had that kind of prior knowledge or experience.
This forum helped me prepare for the nitty gritty of what might happen and put strategies in place ahead of time, but my husband didn't want to know more than he already knew.
I found that it helped a great deal when I eventually started a thread of my own - that way support became more easily targeted to what I/we were facing at any given time.
When you are ready it might help to start a new thread of your own under
Younger people with dementia and their carers
This forum is for people with dementia under the age of 65 and their carers, families and friends.
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
Do keep posting, there are many here who understand what it is to have a partner diagnosed, particularly at a younger age.
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