My Father vists my mother every few days in her Care Home, it is a good home with very attentive staff. Dad looked after her dressing and washing her on his own with no help at all for many years but eventually she was unmanageable and had to go into a home with 24 hour support.
She is completely and utterly miserable, she is cross with Dad and begs him to go home. She keeps saying she has done nothing wrong and can't understand why she is unable to do things.
Mum has been in the home for 6 months now and every single visit Dad has had has gone the same way, she never seems to have any times when she is restful, she is constantly anxious and unhappy. The staff indicate she is upset most of the time, even when Dad is not there.
The most upsetting part for Dad is that she tells him that he doesn't love her. She doesn't respond in any way to reassurance.
The visits are breaking Dad but I know he will keep going to see her as he does love her very much and wants her to be calm and settled more than anything in the world. I keep hoping I will hear from him saying that he had a good visit but it never happens.
Is there anything I can say or do to make this easier for either of them?
She is completely and utterly miserable, she is cross with Dad and begs him to go home. She keeps saying she has done nothing wrong and can't understand why she is unable to do things.
Mum has been in the home for 6 months now and every single visit Dad has had has gone the same way, she never seems to have any times when she is restful, she is constantly anxious and unhappy. The staff indicate she is upset most of the time, even when Dad is not there.
The most upsetting part for Dad is that she tells him that he doesn't love her. She doesn't respond in any way to reassurance.
The visits are breaking Dad but I know he will keep going to see her as he does love her very much and wants her to be calm and settled more than anything in the world. I keep hoping I will hear from him saying that he had a good visit but it never happens.
Is there anything I can say or do to make this easier for either of them?