Spent 20 min typing last message out only to have deleted is accidently (i think)
To cut long story short,apart from me - mum and dad no one else has been involved in uncle toms life for years.
Had phone call from hospital today telling me uncle tom had been moved to discharge ward ready for E.M.I home
I was not impressed to say the least.. (no assesment apparantly this will follow soon)
It gets worse..
someone on the old ward contacted uncle toms son.... (next of kin)
and informed him that he was moving wards (son didnt even know uncle tom was poorly) no contact for years....
Bad move.... as divvy staff member had also informed son that as i had power of attorney.
Went to ward tonight and was greeted with Son - daughter in law - niece's who have never heard of etc...etc
The abuse was mad.... all i heard was them ranting at me for having power of attorney.....Speaks volumes.... no questions about Tom's health....
It got so bad the staff had to ask son etc to move into side ward.
Uncle tom did not want to know me...he stated that i had put him in prision and his son was talking him home he told me to go away and he never wanted to see me again.
It is documented in previous records (years ago) that uncle tom was frightened of son re:bulling etc...
I would not mind if son was genuine but i know all he is concerened about his his inheritance...
Uncle tom does not have any money but he has his home which...i stupidly thought would be sold to pay for his care with no complications..
Son obviously has other ideas
He had to be physically stopped from taking uncle tom from the ward tonight... (says he will be back in morning to take his dad)
He tried to take him in the lift saying that he wanted to go home... back to an empty house - no care plan etc....
The impact on uncle tom was not good...he was so agressive he even tried to hit a nurse who was trying to stop son taking him...
I had to leave ward...I could not bear to see uncle tom like this he looked terrible.
Since had phone call asking me to go to ward in morning with p/o/a etc...
i said i would but really felt like telling them to .....Jump.
Feel like throwing the towel in but know i cant as there will be no one there to fight uncle toms corner.
I have not dared tell my dad what has happened as he would go mad and he really does not need the hassle at present.
I dont know what to do as uncle tom is so vunrable at present he would willing walk out of the ward / prision with mickey mouse....
The staff are ****...They have no clue what so ever.
There must be something i can do to protect him ...?
The p/o/a i have is a enduring one...it states that im to act as attorney (general)
for all his property and affairs
then it states that he wishes me to continue even when he is not of sound mind ? I belive i have to register with the court of protection.... and inform all relitives im doing so.... If son objects...(deffo) the only person to suffer will be uncle tom.
PLEASE HELP / ADVICE as i really have had enough now and need to see some light at the end of the tunnel for uncle tom
Danni x
To cut long story short,apart from me - mum and dad no one else has been involved in uncle toms life for years.
Had phone call from hospital today telling me uncle tom had been moved to discharge ward ready for E.M.I home
I was not impressed to say the least.. (no assesment apparantly this will follow soon)
It gets worse..
someone on the old ward contacted uncle toms son.... (next of kin)
and informed him that he was moving wards (son didnt even know uncle tom was poorly) no contact for years....
Bad move.... as divvy staff member had also informed son that as i had power of attorney.
Went to ward tonight and was greeted with Son - daughter in law - niece's who have never heard of etc...etc
The abuse was mad.... all i heard was them ranting at me for having power of attorney.....Speaks volumes.... no questions about Tom's health....
It got so bad the staff had to ask son etc to move into side ward.
Uncle tom did not want to know me...he stated that i had put him in prision and his son was talking him home he told me to go away and he never wanted to see me again.
It is documented in previous records (years ago) that uncle tom was frightened of son re:bulling etc...
I would not mind if son was genuine but i know all he is concerened about his his inheritance...
Uncle tom does not have any money but he has his home which...i stupidly thought would be sold to pay for his care with no complications..
Son obviously has other ideas
He had to be physically stopped from taking uncle tom from the ward tonight... (says he will be back in morning to take his dad)
He tried to take him in the lift saying that he wanted to go home... back to an empty house - no care plan etc....
The impact on uncle tom was not good...he was so agressive he even tried to hit a nurse who was trying to stop son taking him...
I had to leave ward...I could not bear to see uncle tom like this he looked terrible.
Since had phone call asking me to go to ward in morning with p/o/a etc...
i said i would but really felt like telling them to .....Jump.
Feel like throwing the towel in but know i cant as there will be no one there to fight uncle toms corner.
I have not dared tell my dad what has happened as he would go mad and he really does not need the hassle at present.
I dont know what to do as uncle tom is so vunrable at present he would willing walk out of the ward / prision with mickey mouse....
The staff are ****...They have no clue what so ever.
There must be something i can do to protect him ...?
The p/o/a i have is a enduring one...it states that im to act as attorney (general)
for all his property and affairs
then it states that he wishes me to continue even when he is not of sound mind ? I belive i have to register with the court of protection.... and inform all relitives im doing so.... If son objects...(deffo) the only person to suffer will be uncle tom.
PLEASE HELP / ADVICE as i really have had enough now and need to see some light at the end of the tunnel for uncle tom
Danni x