Hi. I'm finding it hard to start this post. No doubt once I do find the words it will be equally hard to finish. Over the last four years I've found each obstacle we've had to overcome, the first visit to the Drs, the memory clinic visits for the first time, the scans and tests, more dr visits, the admiral nurse visit . Every one of these hurdles, the stress of getting her to go, or trying to reason with her, the benefits of doing something or see someone for her own good, when I knew she didn't want to do any of these things. Oh the frustration, the relief when each step was taken, yes, great, she's finally seen the dr, yes, she's agreed to the scans, yes, she was sectioned,. And now she's in permanent residential care, aged just 61. All those obstacles we managed to get round have led to this. Finally, we managed to get her into a local care home and I feel absolutely terrible. I know she's being well cared for, that doesn't really help the way I feel. I know I'll feel better as time passes and she, hopefully, settles in to her new surroundings. But there's always this nagging feeling that her anger towards me is because she thinks I put her there. After all , in her mind I'm the one with the memory problems. And i thought as each obstacle was carefully negotiated that i would feel better afterwards. Any relief was short lived. Just like this last one, the move to a local care home. Ok, she's nearby but she's still not home and never will be. And that's the toughest thing for me to come to terms with. At a time when I should be embracing this time, ok, she loses her temper with me , so what , she still recognises me and I can still make her laugh sometimes even now!. Oh dear, told you it would be hard to stop once I got going
. So. Now I will stop, it's lunchtime and I'm feeling snackish
. At least there's something to eat in the fridge this time
. Hope that this post makes sense and also might help others in the same position , after all I'm not the only one feeling like this so a problem shared and all that and I feel better already.
. Must go, the soup's in danger of boiling over, doesn't taste as good scraped off the saucepan
. Not quite as frazzled Al.