I consider myself quite intelligent but feel I am losing the plot. My mother is 76 and has vascular dementia. She is currently in hospital and they want her out, we were told to look for EMI care homes but then they felt she would be ok in an EMI residential home. We found a lovely home. Today mdt state home has to be dual registered as she is likely to deteriorate. There are a few in my area but they are full with waiting lists. The social worker wants her to try one 40 miles away which means she would never see her family. The reason they don't want her going into EMI residential is to avoid a move at a future date as she deteriorates - is this normal practice as surely if that was the case no one would ever go into a dementia residential home as we all know dementia is progressive. Plus there is the funding - the home we like charges £140 per week more than LA rates - my mother has a house but her capital is below the £23, 500 threshold How does that work? I realise we would have to pay the shortfall out of her savings but what hapoens when her savings run out as it is above what the LA will pay. I'm so confused and alone - can anyone advise please - thank you.