My mom's privately rented house was being sold and SS suggested moving her into sheltered accomm., or another privately rented house. I was adamant that she posed a fire, flood and security risk to herself and any property and long story short she was fast tracked, funding approved and we moved her into a care home last week.
Care Manager said that funding was approved but we'd be liable for top up of £48 per week. My husband committed straight away as he wanted my mother in a decent home and after some we'd seen it seemed to tick all the boxes. I'm now worried sick that every year the fees go up, the top up funding will become unmanageable and really financially impact our lives. I love my mother and feel guilty for even thinking like this.
The LA are coming to do the financial assessment next week. My mother has no funds, no savings of her own and will only be left with her necessity money of £22 per week, thus leaving my husband and myself liable for all her needs now ie clothing, hair etc, and her top up fees.
Today the care home contract arrived and it made me so sick with worry. I feel that although my mother is in a very decent home with the supervision and care she needs (even though she's hated every minute since she got there a week ago.... ) that my husband's commitment, is perhaps going to be far more than we thought. In reality we are looking at perhaps a period of 10 years plus and managing it all fills me with fear.
What would happen if we were unable to continue with the top up funding if the increments were too great, my worst fear would be that she's moved to an awful home - so the choices are the comfort and wellbeing of my mom who i love dearly, or the financial security of my husband my son and myself. I feel so wretched and selfish for even thinking this way.
I hope noone thinks too badly of me for feeling like this, i am still trying to come to terms with the guilt i feel for moving my mom although not within my control and to a large extent, as i was her carer i feel somewhat lost in my adjustment that that chapter is over.....
Sorry so long winded and whiny, i really need some advice
Care Manager said that funding was approved but we'd be liable for top up of £48 per week. My husband committed straight away as he wanted my mother in a decent home and after some we'd seen it seemed to tick all the boxes. I'm now worried sick that every year the fees go up, the top up funding will become unmanageable and really financially impact our lives. I love my mother and feel guilty for even thinking like this.
The LA are coming to do the financial assessment next week. My mother has no funds, no savings of her own and will only be left with her necessity money of £22 per week, thus leaving my husband and myself liable for all her needs now ie clothing, hair etc, and her top up fees.
Today the care home contract arrived and it made me so sick with worry. I feel that although my mother is in a very decent home with the supervision and care she needs (even though she's hated every minute since she got there a week ago.... ) that my husband's commitment, is perhaps going to be far more than we thought. In reality we are looking at perhaps a period of 10 years plus and managing it all fills me with fear.
What would happen if we were unable to continue with the top up funding if the increments were too great, my worst fear would be that she's moved to an awful home - so the choices are the comfort and wellbeing of my mom who i love dearly, or the financial security of my husband my son and myself. I feel so wretched and selfish for even thinking this way.
I hope noone thinks too badly of me for feeling like this, i am still trying to come to terms with the guilt i feel for moving my mom although not within my control and to a large extent, as i was her carer i feel somewhat lost in my adjustment that that chapter is over.....
Sorry so long winded and whiny, i really need some advice