Hi,
I haven't posted before but would welcome some advice. My mum has AD, she's 69, my dad died 4 years ago and its been a steady decline since. The last couple of months have seen quite a rapid deterioration, she keeps saying she doesn't know where my dad is and can't remember losing him. Also her mum died last week and she can't seem to understand.
She has carers twice a day (she doesn't realise they are carers and thinks she is ok and does everything herself). My big problem is that I live 200 miles away and have no other family, I'm an only child and so is my mum. The carers give me piece of mind that she is at least alright twice a day but this is all, when I visited last week there were a few comments in her book about 'friends' in the house when they visited but we have no idea who they were! She goes in to town quite a lot and keeps drawing money out of the bank not sure where that is going.
Are there other options for care as an alternative to a care home? I don't feel she is ready for that but I don't think she can live alone safely for much longer. I think she should move close to me but would this make her worse? The constant travelling is getting too much especially as my daughter is still at school and I work full time.
Any advice would be welcome - I can't be the only one
Thanks
I haven't posted before but would welcome some advice. My mum has AD, she's 69, my dad died 4 years ago and its been a steady decline since. The last couple of months have seen quite a rapid deterioration, she keeps saying she doesn't know where my dad is and can't remember losing him. Also her mum died last week and she can't seem to understand.
She has carers twice a day (she doesn't realise they are carers and thinks she is ok and does everything herself). My big problem is that I live 200 miles away and have no other family, I'm an only child and so is my mum. The carers give me piece of mind that she is at least alright twice a day but this is all, when I visited last week there were a few comments in her book about 'friends' in the house when they visited but we have no idea who they were! She goes in to town quite a lot and keeps drawing money out of the bank not sure where that is going.
Are there other options for care as an alternative to a care home? I don't feel she is ready for that but I don't think she can live alone safely for much longer. I think she should move close to me but would this make her worse? The constant travelling is getting too much especially as my daughter is still at school and I work full time.
Any advice would be welcome - I can't be the only one
Thanks