Over the last couple of days mum has become more confused. Her medication carousel alerted the community wardens that she hadn't taken her medication. When I finally got her to answer the phone she said she had been to church to find her husband (who has been dead for 4 years). She has been objecting to having a cleaner that I arranged through saying she has no money now since he died and she wont let anyone do shopping for her. Her house is filthy and she has nothing to eat.
I rang social services who told me that without a dementia diagnosis they can't intervene and to ask her GP to do an assessment. When I rang the GP and he rang me back he said he would go and see her, which he did and now he has upgraded her 'vascular disease with MCI' to 'vascular dementia' and referred to social services.
I mentioned the manipulation and lying and he said 'I've been her doctor for 10 years, I know.'
So should we tell her? And what happens now? What can social services do? What do I need to do?
The GP told me that there is no treatment and it is a matter of management. She's been phoning me tonight telling me she feels like she's being railroaded onto things (mainly by me, it seems), so I can't imagine that she's going to let people make decisions for her easily.
There's only a bit of my mum left, she seems like a different person.
I rang social services who told me that without a dementia diagnosis they can't intervene and to ask her GP to do an assessment. When I rang the GP and he rang me back he said he would go and see her, which he did and now he has upgraded her 'vascular disease with MCI' to 'vascular dementia' and referred to social services.
I mentioned the manipulation and lying and he said 'I've been her doctor for 10 years, I know.'
So should we tell her? And what happens now? What can social services do? What do I need to do?
The GP told me that there is no treatment and it is a matter of management. She's been phoning me tonight telling me she feels like she's being railroaded onto things (mainly by me, it seems), so I can't imagine that she's going to let people make decisions for her easily.
There's only a bit of my mum left, she seems like a different person.