Be cared for my brother for over 4 yrs now in my home. Not only with the fact he has early onset dementia but also on his day to day challenges of going through a divorce and fighting to see his son..and I’ve had to help with court hearings and paperwork etc. it’s been a challenge and a year ago I reduced my hours to part time. His dementia is loads worse and he is uriniating around the house and missing the toilet and putting soiled toilet paper behind the cabinets etc. and in terms of help with adapting the house for a downstairs bathroom I’ve got a brick wall as the waiting list is over a year and I can’t deal with my house smelling of wee anymore. I’ve just had our first holiday in 4 years and my brother went into respite and since I’ve struggled to get back into the role as his carer. He settled okay with respite so I’m thinking now is the time to ask for a care assessment but I feel awful.. but I’m not in a good place mentally and I think it’s because in a way I feel I have already lost my brother. I’m struggling with everything and the guilt of not being able to keep him at home. But I also feel I need to prioritise myself. It took me a year to fight for respite for 2 weeks and I have been told that regular respite isn’t guaranteed. Anyone else been in a similar situation!?