My brother and I have put her house on the market as it has become too big for her with the view that she moves in with me, my husband and two offspring, both will be at university next year. She will have her own room, ensuite and space, but family around her. Mum has said numerous times that the house is too big and too much for her.
My Mum is 86, has carers coming into her house, but can be hostile towards them and is very much an isolationist. The carers call in to make sure that she has taken her medication and is ok.
At present I usually spend Friday night and Saturday at her house, to top up her medication, make sure she has eaten and give her a shower. My son is about alot and supports her too due to the location of his school.
We feel this is the right thing to do at this point to have people around her she feels comfortable for social interaction in the morning and evening, family meals etc. Mum willingly accepts my help and support.
We will be getting carers in an hour or two per day for Mum whilst I am at work, thinking thatvwe could use the guise that they are there to help me around the house.
Mum has enough savings for a couple of years in a care home should the time come as and when she needs more assistance or becomes too much for me to handle when she enters the later stages of alzhimers.
Mum also has a couple of medical health issues, heart failure and chronic kidney disease, which means she has additional appointments, that I take her to.
I have had a few people say that it is not a good idea, she will not take well to a change in surroundings etc. But I feel, knowing my mum that it will be good for mum and also lower my anxiety, stress and worry about her when she is home alone, taking her medication, eating and washing.
My Mum is 86, has carers coming into her house, but can be hostile towards them and is very much an isolationist. The carers call in to make sure that she has taken her medication and is ok.
At present I usually spend Friday night and Saturday at her house, to top up her medication, make sure she has eaten and give her a shower. My son is about alot and supports her too due to the location of his school.
We feel this is the right thing to do at this point to have people around her she feels comfortable for social interaction in the morning and evening, family meals etc. Mum willingly accepts my help and support.
We will be getting carers in an hour or two per day for Mum whilst I am at work, thinking thatvwe could use the guise that they are there to help me around the house.
Mum has enough savings for a couple of years in a care home should the time come as and when she needs more assistance or becomes too much for me to handle when she enters the later stages of alzhimers.
Mum also has a couple of medical health issues, heart failure and chronic kidney disease, which means she has additional appointments, that I take her to.
I have had a few people say that it is not a good idea, she will not take well to a change in surroundings etc. But I feel, knowing my mum that it will be good for mum and also lower my anxiety, stress and worry about her when she is home alone, taking her medication, eating and washing.
