Dear All
I started posting earlier this year when Mum's condition deteriorated due to a severe stroke.
Sadly my main problem was a difficult sibling and I was at my wits end as to how to deal with her - at one stage the NH was saying they needed her (the sister!) to be controlled or else.......
After a number of further strokes poor Mum died peacefully earlier this month in the NH. She was in such a poor situation that it would have been very hard to wish her to continue.
Of course sister has continued the psychological warfare until the end and since - to some extent blunting the feelings that should be there for Mum but I am much less distressed by her behaviour because there is no longer a vulnerable 91 year old in the middle of it.
Your help, during the most distressing episodes, was invaluable. I had exhausted the ears of my friends and emigrant siblings and anyway they didn't really understand as you all did.
So thanks again and please keep up the support for all of those who come after me!
I started posting earlier this year when Mum's condition deteriorated due to a severe stroke.
Sadly my main problem was a difficult sibling and I was at my wits end as to how to deal with her - at one stage the NH was saying they needed her (the sister!) to be controlled or else.......
After a number of further strokes poor Mum died peacefully earlier this month in the NH. She was in such a poor situation that it would have been very hard to wish her to continue.
Of course sister has continued the psychological warfare until the end and since - to some extent blunting the feelings that should be there for Mum but I am much less distressed by her behaviour because there is no longer a vulnerable 91 year old in the middle of it.
Your help, during the most distressing episodes, was invaluable. I had exhausted the ears of my friends and emigrant siblings and anyway they didn't really understand as you all did.
So thanks again and please keep up the support for all of those who come after me!