Hi, I read these forums regularly but rarely post (sorry!) but I just wanted to ask for opinions on the latest situation we find ourselves in. My Mum was diagnosed with AD two years ago (though I reckon it started about 7/8 years ago). Since the diagnosis we've had carers going in twice a day and things have muddled along with (lots of!) problems along the way, but nothing too serious. Unfortunately none of the family live locally so even minor problems can be big ones to solve. Mum has just spent 3 weeks in hospital after a wound on her hand became badly infected (she'd had it for at least 5 days before the family became aware) and she was admitted via A&E. Anyway, to cut a long story short we decided the time has come where she needs to go into a home. The risks of keeping her in her own home have been increasing and she ended up in hospital because there was no-one to take responsibility when she had a serious problem. So, I'm as happy as I can be that we've made the right decision. The home she is now in is lovely. She has a lot of freedom (within secure boundaries) and the residents are encouraged to be as active/independent as possible. She is physically fit (she's oly 70) and in many ways quite capable. She's only been there a few days but seems happy with the place and the people. Now for my question: do we tell her this is now her new home? So far we're saying it's just till her hand's better. Yesterday when we visited she got very upset because she thought she might be staying there permanently so, we again lied. So for other people who've been in this situation have you found it better to tell the truth or keep telling white lies? I've always felt that when the time came lying would be the best for my Mum but now I'm not so sure. She does know her own home so when she says she wants to be there she knows exactly where she wants to be. Sorry, a long post to ask a quick question! Thanks for any advice.