It's only been a week since Ma went into residential care (kicking and screaming, I might add).
The home is great - spotless, great room, activities, staff are wonderful. Took me a while to find this place.
The problem is Ma. She, of course hates it. After day 2, I want to go home. I'm done here. The girls are nice but I'm coming home. Starting to pack and gets so very angry with whomever she sees. (I mean from family)
Today, she's said she is vomiting up the food as she wants to die. In the next breath, someone is trying to kill her. A man came into her room and removed her underwear. She's going to escape, she's going to throw herself from the window and on and on. Someone stole my money.
Is there a possibility she is telling the truth about any of this?
I told the team leader to check for a urine infection.
She's fine when not on the phone with anyone she knows. The staff has said she participates in all activities and never in her room.
I, of course am a mess!
When, if ever does this get easier?
I know it's normal since others have been through this, but how do you cope?
I am going to stop the in person visits as it just affects me so badly.
From the moment she sees me it's - I want to go home and packing and then shaking and crying and the show begins. I cannot deflect. She's like a dog with a bone - won't let go.
How do you guys cope please?
The home is great - spotless, great room, activities, staff are wonderful. Took me a while to find this place.
The problem is Ma. She, of course hates it. After day 2, I want to go home. I'm done here. The girls are nice but I'm coming home. Starting to pack and gets so very angry with whomever she sees. (I mean from family)
Today, she's said she is vomiting up the food as she wants to die. In the next breath, someone is trying to kill her. A man came into her room and removed her underwear. She's going to escape, she's going to throw herself from the window and on and on. Someone stole my money.
Is there a possibility she is telling the truth about any of this?
I told the team leader to check for a urine infection.
She's fine when not on the phone with anyone she knows. The staff has said she participates in all activities and never in her room.
I, of course am a mess!
When, if ever does this get easier?
I know it's normal since others have been through this, but how do you cope?
I am going to stop the in person visits as it just affects me so badly.
From the moment she sees me it's - I want to go home and packing and then shaking and crying and the show begins. I cannot deflect. She's like a dog with a bone - won't let go.
How do you guys cope please?