After nearly three years of having my lovely Mum, (who has dementia ) living with me and my husband, I put her into a care home yesterday. It it supposed to be for respite but even though it was done because I'm exhausted and the rest of the family were concerned about my health , I feel like going right back to get her out now. She cried so much and said it wouldn't have been so bad if only we had told her. When I rang today I was told (the staff seem nice ) that they had seen her walking down the corridor holding hands with another old lady. While that should be good I just can't seem to stop crying about it.
Mum has wandered once (out of the bedroom window in the night! ) so is in a secure unit and this other lady is the only other person there who is mobile and can speak.
I don't know how I will be able to visit without upsetting her that she is not coming home or what state she will be in if she ever does come back.
Sorry for this long ramble, this is the only place I know where where people will understand.
Mum has wandered once (out of the bedroom window in the night! ) so is in a secure unit and this other lady is the only other person there who is mobile and can speak.
I don't know how I will be able to visit without upsetting her that she is not coming home or what state she will be in if she ever does come back.
Sorry for this long ramble, this is the only place I know where where people will understand.