BTW why can't we be called SUPPORTERS not the vaguely patronising carers? My OH has Alzheimer’s, early stage but progressing towards mid stage. I’m considering getting carer support for him. He has a close Italian friend who spends days or even a few weeks here from time to time and just spends time talking to him or taking him out for walks, exhibitions etc. I don’t have the patience for this plus I have a zillion things to do running the house and keeping up with children/ grandchildren. Also, we weren’t always on very good terms in the past , not a very loving couple, and I don’t feel I owe him unstinting support although I do feel sad and compassionate. What i think would really help would be 2-3 days a week of companionship plus help with simple household tasks. This would morph into personal care as that became necessary, my red line. Oh, and he’s “ high functioning” he was an eminent history professor and still very intelligent so probably very picky about carers. Is my wish realistic? We can afford private provision. Do people have experience of this sort of support?