Is there anyone here with the problem I have? Hubby is almost 65 and for the past 7 years has been steadily going downhill. He refuses to bathe unless he has to go out...last round he did not bathe for 20 days! He does not change his clothes or underwear in the interim so there is no chance of me washing them. He wears his clothing until it is raggedy and filthy. He insists on cooking every week and does absolutely nothing like tidying up the apartment. So now the living room looks like a giant cluttered garage. Of course when I talk about it he says I am making a mountain out of a molehill and nothing is wrong with the way it looks. He has slowly spread out...he hoards plastic bags ...they are everywhere...even on his computer workstation. I have been trying to get him to see the doc ...no luck. He has been wearing the same broken sandals for longer than I remember and now he can't lift his feet in them and rather has to drag them. Does he have new ones...yes he does but steadfastly refuses to wear them. I have given up.....my every utterance is met with hostility, anger resentment or utter and complete silence. He does not speak at home unless spoken to but if a particular friend calls you can stay a mile off hearing him laugh and talk but it is always the same topic. Somebody please tell me I am not the crazy one here....I suspect dementia. When I do strike up a conversation he talks about things that happened years ago especially on his job....the same stories I have heard a million times over. Somebody talk to me please!! He rinses his mouth in the sink and if I am in the bathroom and he needs to pee.....he will use the kitchen sink! I know he does it but I haven't called him out because I can't take the fuss.
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