Hi. My Mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March of this year. Her immediate short term memory has gone, the slightly longer shirt term memory is hit and miss. So she is fairly early in the stages. She doesn't cope well with change, crowded places and accidents/incidents.
One of her Aunties had dementia, many years ago. Mum's mum took her own life, after which we believe from bullying from where she lived.
Mum has always said she ever gets like her Aunty, we have "to shoot her"! That isn't going to happen. Mum knows she has Alzheimer's. Over the last 6 month's she has talked about "doing what mum did" (ending her life) because she cannot live in this prison anymore. Please note that Mum still goes out by herself when doing her routine. Out of her routine, someone is with her. My sister and I, discussed this with Mum and her doctor, after a discussion between Mum and the Doctor, he concluded this was a feeling and she wasn't going to act upon it. He put her on antidepressants.
Today, Mum has threatend to get a rope and hang herself, this is what her Mum did. Dad has removed access to ropes, has locked them away and hidden the keys.
Mum told me what she was going to do and told me not to discuss it with anyone and if I did she would never speak to me again. Naturally, I am concerned and have spoken with my husband and sister. I didn't tell Dad the full story of what Mum said, but he isn't daft.
Has anyone been in this situation and if so, what did you do?
My sister and I have contact with our parents everyday. We've agreed if Mum says this again we are going to take her back to the doctors, but is that the right thing to do? She has recently had a thorough med review and no changes to perscriptions were deemed necessary. I've offered to pay for counselling for her to have someone to talk to other than family, but that has been refused.
I'm just not sure what is the right thing to do.
One of her Aunties had dementia, many years ago. Mum's mum took her own life, after which we believe from bullying from where she lived.
Mum has always said she ever gets like her Aunty, we have "to shoot her"! That isn't going to happen. Mum knows she has Alzheimer's. Over the last 6 month's she has talked about "doing what mum did" (ending her life) because she cannot live in this prison anymore. Please note that Mum still goes out by herself when doing her routine. Out of her routine, someone is with her. My sister and I, discussed this with Mum and her doctor, after a discussion between Mum and the Doctor, he concluded this was a feeling and she wasn't going to act upon it. He put her on antidepressants.
Today, Mum has threatend to get a rope and hang herself, this is what her Mum did. Dad has removed access to ropes, has locked them away and hidden the keys.
Mum told me what she was going to do and told me not to discuss it with anyone and if I did she would never speak to me again. Naturally, I am concerned and have spoken with my husband and sister. I didn't tell Dad the full story of what Mum said, but he isn't daft.
Has anyone been in this situation and if so, what did you do?
My sister and I have contact with our parents everyday. We've agreed if Mum says this again we are going to take her back to the doctors, but is that the right thing to do? She has recently had a thorough med review and no changes to perscriptions were deemed necessary. I've offered to pay for counselling for her to have someone to talk to other than family, but that has been refused.
I'm just not sure what is the right thing to do.
