I just don't understand why, given that so many are affected by this illness, that the reality of living with dementia is so often sugar-coated and misleading.
I get so, so angry at images in the media that portray a sweet looking and beautifully dressed elderly person serenely gazing up with affection and trust at a carer, who looks calm and well rested. Reality is just as likely (if not more likely, judging by the posts you read on TP) to be the pwd being paranoid, filled with fear or anger by the confusion, experiencing delusions and/or hallucinations, refusing to wash and change their clothes, screaming insults and cowering away from a carer who is totally exhausted and stressed. Not only exhausted and stressed from dealing with the behaviours listed, but also from the mountains of laundry, lack of sleep, the endless form-filling and paperwork, the constant repetition and need for reassurance and also from the sheer heartbreak of watching someone that they love, very much, slowly disappearing into this foul illness. Add in the almost inevitable battles with the so called support services to try and get just a little help, just a litle respite, just a little decent treatment, and its no wonder that the carer's health, mental and physical, is so often so badly compromised.
I don't believe, that once you get to the middle and end stages that it is ever possible to 'live well' with dementia - not for the sufferer nor for the carer. And until that is acknowledged and addressed openly and honestly by the media, by the medical practitioners and by any and every other support service that there is, the current situation where carers and patients alike are all too often left with either totally inadequate, or even no support at all, will continue.
Its OK to show the saddest images of what cancer can do to a person - but not dementia?. Why?
The first image isn't what dementia looks like for all too many of us - the second image is!