thank you for replying it does seem to help just to write the words down sometimes i know he loves me but when some one shows no interest in your feelings or health can not even ask how your hospital appt was but can say you were out too long it is tough not to feel angry i hate confrontation so keep quiet even when hurt may be that is wrong but too tired with it all to bother thank you once againTuffydawn, I feel for you, it is heart breaking. But sadly this is something very many of us experience. What you have written could have been me writing, and I would think many others.
My husband was a deeply caring, loving and unselfish man before dementia started to change him, and he became the complete opposite of himself. It is extremely hard to deal with, and you feel so alone and isolated.
It is the disease, not him, although at times it can be very difficult to believe. It was not until I joined TP after years of my husband’s dementia that I realised how common this is and that I was not the only one which I often felt I was. It does help to share experiences, write about what is happening in your own situation, knowing that others will understand.
I have no words of wisdom to offer, and can only send you empathy and sympathy. I’m sure others will be along to write as well, and I hope being on TP does bring you some comfort.