mum is almost 92 . lives alone . Has her bed downstairs . Is unsteady on her feet and has fallen frequently . my brother does her shopping but she eats often out of date food. It is a constant fight to throw out old food , mouldy bread etc. Also lazy about changing clothes etc.
Last week she asked me to give her a shower. I did it once before , years ago when she got a new knee. But she was ok mentally then. This time it felt like this might be the start of something new.
It made me think of when i did this for my late husband just before he died of cancer . Its 15 years ago .
I realise I do not want to care for my mother like i did for him. I do not want to get into personal care .
She will not consider carers . Thinks she can manage on her own
Last week she asked me to give her a shower. I did it once before , years ago when she got a new knee. But she was ok mentally then. This time it felt like this might be the start of something new.
It made me think of when i did this for my late husband just before he died of cancer . Its 15 years ago .
I realise I do not want to care for my mother like i did for him. I do not want to get into personal care .
She will not consider carers . Thinks she can manage on her own