Hi, my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a couple of years ago and in October 2022 we made a decision as a family that she needed permanent care. She was struggling to look after herself and even with daily support and plenty of visits she was becoming very confused in her flat, often sitting for hours staring at the mirror in her bedroom or frantically calling family saying she had been abandoned. Mum is now 93, she lives in a lovely care home 5 minutes walk from me, I pop in 3 times a week and my other local sister sees her several times a week. My other siblings are further away and some are better than others at visiting, problem is mum is terribly depressed. She says she hates it there, won’t join in with anything, sometimes is aggressive towards the staff too. She can’t remember anything short term so she never remembers all the visits and has recently started telling me she is there because her father can’t handle her any more. It makes me feel so sad when I see her, I try to make the best of it and chat continually and I know she is happier when I am there but I work as a teacher and. Only go in on the weekends and 20 minutes after I leave she has forgotten the visit. Sometimes I feed visiting because she can be so down and negative and she keeps saying ‘just hope you don’t end up like this, I am never getting out of here’ and sometimes she can be so mean, I knows it’s the Alzheimer’s not her but it is so hard sometimes and I worry about her all the time.